Ever think about the glasses you see the world through?

For some, it is colorful, joyful, varied and exciting. For others, it is cool, lonely and bleak.

Individual psychology says that everything we see and hear has a filter. We perceive everything through our own glasses. These glasses are our subjective perception and everyone is right in their own logic. So you can say that if you look for the bad, you will find the bad. If you look for things to criticize, you will always find something to criticize.

If, on the other hand, you look for the good, you will also find the good. If you look for beauty, you will discover the beauty around you. You will find what you are looking for or what you are focusing on.

Often this negative image of how we see the world around us comes from our childhood. It can come from difficult childhood experiences, loss, bullying or disappointment. And we go through the world with these glasses on, wondering why everything seems so negative. But you know what? You can change your glasses.🤓

I have already mentioned one way of changing your glasses in an earlier Post on Instagram. It is the 6 Min Tagebuch. The diary helps you to be more focused on the good in and around you through daily self-reflection. It helps you to establish positive habits such as gratitude, optimism and self-love in your life. It also has a theory section at the beginning of the book that shows you how the diary works and how it is worth investing in a more positive world view. 👌🏼

Another variation is 'pre-framing'. Pre-framing means that I decide how I want to see something before it happens. Instead of allowing my old way of seeing to take over and lead me to interpret what could be positive as negative, I proactively choose the frame I want to use to evaluate my experience. For example: If I arrive in a place with lots of new people and I don't know how to act or who to approach, I say the following words about myself; I am welcome. I am allowed to contribute. I am valuable. My opinion is sought. I am part of this group. I am a good listener. I am interested in the other person. I enjoy the evening. I enjoy being here, etc.

I have replaced my old glasses, which made me feel insecure and doubtful about myself. I wear new glasses with new truths that I express about myself. And I allow myself to be influenced and guided by them.

To get to this point today and to be able to speak new truths about myself, I have looked at some things from my past and cleared them up. Throughout this process I have sought outside help (including from my counsellor). This helped me to look at things and move on.

Although the new glasses look much better on me than the old ones, unfortunately I still fall back into the old ways. But I know that every step forward is a step closer to my goal.

If you need help finding a new pair of glasses, contact me for a no-obligation consultation.

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